Could you?
Could you still be friends with someone if you found out that they had raped someone or was violent to a female? Could you just look past that and pretend that, that bit of information never reached your ears? It's a completely different ballgame to being friends with people who periodically break women/mens' hearts. I don't see how anyone can condone rape or beating up a girl, but they do. There's NO SUCH THING as sitting on the fence for this one, and it is NEVER a woman's fault that someone ELSE could not control his fists. If you see a friend being abused, staying quiet and letting it happen is the same thing as condoning it. At the very least, you should advise her on what to do and help her escape if she wants to.
Even if that girl wasn't me, I would never remain friends with somebody if I know they've done such things to a girl. It's a very well known fact that females are physically weaker than males and yet this particular person has repeatedly beat his girlfriend up and his friends ignore it. She walks around with a black eye, or broken lip and nobody does anything. They don't think it's their place to, but they should, damnit.
How can you be friends with a fucking asshole like that? How can you ignore that he's a meek, disgusting shell of a human being that doesn't deserve the same kind of consideration given to other human beings? How can you laugh at his jokes and pretend that he deserves anything less than being dragged dick first by a car through a crowded street? It sickens me.
I'm not hanging out with him anymore, there is nothing more despicable to me than that sort of violence. Even if I meet him in the street in a few years time I still wouldn't acknowledge him, a man like that doesn't deserve any respect. This may be considered two completely separate things but, what's the difference between a child rapist and a normal rapist? They both prey on the weak, they both cause irreparable damage and they are both scum of the earth. We should label these violent men with the same disgust we give to child molesters.
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I think it would be pretty hard to remain friends after something like that. I don't know if I could or not. I mean there are just somethings that are inexcusable. This is one of them.
I could not ever, ever be friends with such a person. Rape ought to be a capital offense. Hurting Women in any way just makes me sick and angry. Those who beat or emotionally tear down Women are not men, no way, no how.
We men are damned lucky to share the earth with You Goddesses, damned lucky, and the abuse of that privilege is abhorrent, inexcusable -- as Chase said -- and disgusting.
And as You said, abuse of a Woman is never Her fault. Neither is rape. A Woman no more deserves to be assaulted because of how She dressed or where She went or what She drank, than I deserve to be robbed for carrying a wallet.
Physical intimacy is a beautiful thing, the supreme way that a person expresses his or Her love for another person. To force it,is to tear open a flower bud in order to make it bloom.
Yeah, I know some people who still are friends with that particular person. I've pretty much lost all respect I had for that group of people.
Some of them have said that it's her own fault for staying with him when she knows how he is like. I don't think that is a valid excuse for his behaviour. The whole thing just sickens me to no end.
That old "why does She stay with him" garbage!
Sometimes She has grown up in that kind of an environment Herself and doesn't comprehend that any other relationship is possible.
Sometimes She loves him and believes his lies, his apologies and his promises to never do it again.
If he is a typical abuser, he successfully manages to not only destroy Her self-esteem but also Her self-reliance and Her external relationships.
Sometimes She is so beaten down that She believes She deserves the treatment that She is getting.
Sometimes there are children in the relationship that She is trying to protect.
And sometimes, leaving gets Her killed.
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